My favorite quote is from a text written by the Sanskrit writer Kālidāsa. I read it in a book about 3 years ago and it has stuck with me since then. It’s rare that I get “excited” about quotes, but this one really got me. I think about it often.
For yesterday is but a dream
And tomorrow is only a vision;
And today well-lived makes
Yesterday a dream of happiness
And every tomorrow a vision of hope
Things I’m reminded when reading this:
Life is right now in this moment
Worrying too much about the future isn’t very helpful
There are a bunch of people, probably around 30 to 40 to be more accurate, that I feel like I’ve known for years. They come from all around the world. They do completely different things for work. They look completely different. They are meat eaters, vegetarians, vegans, coaches, architects, programmers, investors, entrepreneurs, christians, muslims, atheists, surfers, travelers, students – you get the idea. They are different kinds of people.
The one thing they all have in common is that I’ve known them for less than a year.
These are some of the people I’ve met during the 3-4 months I’ve spent co-living at Sun & Co in the past year.
Sun & Co has been my second home in 2016 and my go-to-place, whenever I had a few weeks with nothing else on the schedule (that required my physical presence that is). I’m pretty sure I have the record for most time spent in the house.
I’ve seen a huge amount of people come and go. A lot of whom said their lives were transformed after trying co-living and meeting such a diversified and interesting group of people.
I had my first co-living experience in 2014, when I lived with a large group of “digital nomads” in a large apartment building in Chiang Mai, Thailand. Still we were living in our own studios. In 2015, I stayed for a few weeks at the famous Surf Office in Las Palmas, but still in shared flats with private rooms. Sun & Co was my first time living and working in a house full of people I didn’t know in advance.
One of the hosts at Sun & Co, and a good friend of mine, Jon, wrote a blog post about how co-living is a very accelerated version of co-working. It’s a great post, which does a great job explaining what I’m trying to say here: Living and working together with people is an extremely accelerated way of making new friends and connections. For me, one of the biggest part of co-living has been the friendships I’ve made that continued after co-living.
There are a ton of “how co-living changed my life” blog posts out there, so instead of doing yet another one, I thought I would share a few pictures of some of the “after co-living” memories I have from 2016.
It’s been almost a month since I unfollowed everyone on Facebook. This is how my feed looks now:
Now, my only ventures to Facebook are for messages and group conversations. All the noise is gone. If I have the desire to stalk someone, I have to make a conscious decision to type in their name in the search box. More often than not, I don’t bother. To me, staring at that “No posts to show” message, every time I visit Facebook, has been such a relieve.
How I did it
It’s a step-by-step process and, honestly, it’s been super easy.
Every time you log onto Facebook, you go through your feed post by post and unfollow whoever posted it. As many as you can handle. Don’t distinquish between people (and pages, groups etc.). Unfollow everyone who posted something. Remember, you can always follow them again if you change your mind.
When you see the “No posts to show” message the first time, you are getting closer. It won’t stay there, since some of your friends post very infrequently.
Once in a while, a new post will pop up. Some people never post anything, but will be tagged in updates and pictures once in a while. Actually, you will soon discover that most of the Facebook clutter comes from a very small group of people. This is good news, since it makes the whole process stepwise. You will have less and less people to unfollow and less and less Facebook noise to look at.
After a while, post an update to Facebook explaining what you did. This way, people will know why most of the time you won’t like or comment their stuff. If you do, though, you will have made a conscious decision to visit their profile and actually have cared about them.
That’s it. You will probably never unfollow every one, since some people literally never post anything and disabled tagging of their names. But since you won’t see anything from those people, there is no reason to unfollow them.
Why it works
You do it step-by-step
You can still visit Facebook as much as you want
You can still post updates if you feel like it
You can still (choose to consciously) stalk people
You can still use messages and groups (the biggest excuse for most people)
You can still see if it’s someone’s birthday
Start now. Go to Facebook and unfollow a bunch of people. It feels great and it’s not your responsibility to read everything that people post on their walls.
Hi! My name is Peter and this is the first entry on this freshly created blog. It’s not the first time a blog has been created by me. You see. I like to begin new projects and I do it all the time. Sometimes I start blogs on the Internet, sometimes I build online products for myself, or for my clients, or I start businesses that rent out bartenders, or one of a 1000 other things. Actually, most of the times when you meet me, I will tell you that I just started this new cool project. It’s how I work.
I’m that thing between a developer and an entrepreneur, which means that whenever I get an idea for a new project, no one is holding me back. A few hours later, I’ll have a website up and running and ask you to retweet it to your followers! I like the term ‘devtrepreneur‘, and I think it describes me pretty well.
Think of those first 3 paragraphs as a disclaimer. This blog will be about all my projects. I think. Hopefully I won’t abandon it too soon, like (a few) of my previous projects. Anywho.
I’m mostly a programmer. I also like to think of myself as a traveler. I’m danish, but in the last 2 years, I think I’ve been more outside of Denmark than inside it. I’ve lived in Morocco and Thailand and traveled to many other countries. I also like the term ‘digital nomad’ and like the idea of combining the two terms:
Devtrepreneur + Digital Nomad = Win?
It’s difficult for me to predict what will happen with this blog, but I expect to be posting about at least the following topics:
Programming (PHP and server stuff)
Business (Freelancing, entrepreneurship and bootstrapping)
At least, those are topics that I care about a lot these days.
Since this blog is still pretty fresh, ff you want to know more about me, you could check out some of the following stuff: